Wake up Call

I got a wake up call this morning. Wake up to how naive people can be. I was sitting having coffee with a friend of mine and a guy from our church walked in. We started just chatting about different subjects and we came upon a subject I really wish we would have steered clear of. Because I left the coffee shop in anger and frustration. In fact I came home and have been crying at the lack of knowledge some people have. I don't want to disrespect this man because I truly just feel that he doesn't know the other side of his story.
With that being said I will explain to you what I'm talking about. We were talking about youth and their struggles. He was telling me how he knows the way the world is with sex and images, that it is very hard for our youth to not struggle with purity. He went on to explain how when he was younger, he struggled with the same thing. Yeah...okay so far so good and then he made this one comment that tore me apart. He said "It's not a big deal if brothers and sisters experiment with sex if they are curious". What?????? I looked him in the eye and said well I think differently about that because I was sexually abused. And then I had to pray and pray hard!!!!!! I wanted to yell, scream and throw my cup across the room.
Seriously???? You think it's okay. This is something that destroys families. Not to mention that the brother and sister specifically go through their own torment. And honestly if a boy even thinks of his sister in that way then it has been modeled to him. I look at people that molest children and know that it had to have been done to them. Why would your mind even go there?
Have we actually gotten to the point that we are so naive and desensitized that we think that something like sexual abuse is just normal and some sort of experimentation? I'm sure when you talk to the victim that she/he will feel much better in knowing that. It's another excuse for abuse.
It's like people that have been beaten and then start beating their own children. If someone confronts them they explain it's okay because that's what happened to them when they were little. It's no excuse! We have the responsibility as adults to stop the cycle.
I have to tell you I think this hits so hard this morning because I saw the most beautiful woman the other day. I looked into her eyes and saw the deepest sadness I've seen in awhile. She smiles and is absolutely stunning but she is living a life of sickness that keeps her from enjoying what should be hers! And it ticks me off!!!!!! I have never wanted to track someone down so much in my life and say to them "See this woman, see what you did to her life!!!!!" And then I have to remember what I've always knew. Hurt people hurt people. So I have to take my anger and put it in the proper direction. We have an enemy that has a sole purpose of stealing from us, killing and destroying us. And he thinks he can win this battle with this beautiful woman but she has such a faith in God. That's where her true beauty comes from. And I just want to hold her face in my hands and look into her eyes and say "YOU ARE WORTHY! YOU DON'T DESERVE THIS! Open up your mouth and fight for others. This is where the healing will come from. No longer letting the enemy have control of your voice. Others need to hear what you have to say."
So here I am still crying and frustrated. I want the world to know that when there is abuse, there is pain. It's not a "why don't you just get over it" moment. It's real and it changes everything...the way you view people around you and especially the way you view yourself.
I will now start praying more than ever to help educate people on this fact at a deeper level. Obviously what's being said out there is not enough for some people. They need to hear from the victims and the torment that goes along with it.
Thanks for listening today. I just needed to get it out there. For me and for those that are crying in a corner waiting for their time of healing and to live the life they were created to live! And for my new beautiful friend!!!!!!!!

"So reach out and welcome one another to God's glory. Jesus did it; now you do it! Jesus, staying true to God's purposes, reached out in a special way to the Jewish insiders so that the old ancestral promises would come true for them. As a result, the non-Jewish outsiders have been able to experience mercy and to show appreciation to God. Just think of all the Scriptures that will come true in what we do! For instance:

Then I'll join outsiders in a hymn-sing;
I'll sing to your name!
And this one:
Outsiders and insiders, rejoice together!
And again:
People of all nations, celebrate God!
All colors and races, give hearty praise!
And Isaiah's word:
There's the root of our ancestor Jesse,
breaking through the earth and growing tree tall,
Tall enough for everyone everywhere to see and take hope!
Oh! May the God of green hope fill you up with joy, fill you up with peace, so that your believing lives, filled with the life-giving energy of the Holy Spirit, will brim over with hope!"
Romans 15:7-13 (The Message)